Please – Can We Stop Fighting over Christmas??

The latest “controversy” over Starbucks Coffee Cups is another example of how we have lost the ability to just be nice.

I grew up in the 50s (a very un-liberal time) and at least a third of the “Christmas Cards” contained the phrase “Happy Holidays” or “Seasons Greetings” and probably half the songs used the phrase “Happy Holidays” or featured snowmen, Santa, and reindeer etc. No one thought it was a “War against Christmas!” Guess we just assumed people would enjoy a friendly greeting and a happy song during the season.

For the rest of the season, I plan to block all websites that harp on either side of this “issue” – so that I can have a Happy Thanksgiving, Happy Holiday Season, Merry Christmas, Happy Christmas, Happy New Year AND wish Happy Holidays to EVERYONE, even those who celebrate Hannukah, Kwanza and any other holiday.

I like people and, oddly, I like to wish them all well. Christmas is my tradition. I will probably say “Merry Christmas” at least half of the time. To those who are NOT Christian – I am simply wishing you the happiness that Christmas gives me. If you reply with Happy Hanukkah or Happy Holidays or whatever, I will concentrate on the word HAPPY and assume you are wishing me well.

I hope that EVERYONE will have a peaceful season, no matter what your religion or non-religion. I will tell you that stopping all the political and social issue websites from entering my feed has made me a MUCH happier person. I highly recommend it!!

Meanwhile – PLEASE – Let There be Peace on Earth!

Compassion and Respect in an Either-Or World

I have a different take on the situation with county clerk Kim Davis. I have written about a similar issue before. What I have to say will not be popular in an either-or, black and white world such as ours.  I will likely make enemies in both camps of this issue. But there really IS another viewpoint other than the two opinions yelled out in front of Ms. Davis’ place of business.

First off….I am 100% in favor of gay marriage.  Everyone should have the right to make a public and legal commitment to the person they love.  Period.  End of story there.  I was incredibly thrilled with the Supreme Court decision on this matter, and proud of our country for making this the law of the land.  Also, I am a Christian, and I do NOT believe that marriage is allowed only between one man and one woman. It is a commitment that should be open to anyone brave enough to take it on!

All that said, I recognize that there are many good people who sincerely believe that same-sex marriage is a violation of God’s laws.  I can understand and respect that….as long as they do not try to force their beliefs on others.

Here is where I diverge.  Yes I believe in the right of fundamentalist Christians and other religious groups to follow the dictates of their conscience. However, given this sudden change in the law, I think we need to allow people and agencies the time and space to make needed policy adjustments.

What do I mean by that?  Kim Davis took the position of county clerk before same-sex marriage was the law of the state – let alone the law of the land.  She accepted a position knowing that she was capable of fulfilling all her duties.  Now she is not capable. People have said that she should resign if she cannot do her job. I understand that position and I believe she might have to do that in the end.  But I also think that the state should think of a way that she can be “grandfathered” in with slightly different expectations.  The state needs to be clear that someone else in her office will be able to authorize legal marriage licenses.  I know they have already – but there is a question as to whether this is legal.  Really this should be a simple accommodation that can be made to ALL people who were hired by offices that issue marriage licenses before this decision was made.

This accommodation might not be enough for some people who abide by very strict religious rules.  If that is the case – so be it.  There is no choice for them but to resign as a matter of conscience.

What does this mean going forward?  ANYONE, no matter their religion or beliefs, who accepts a job like Kim Davis’ position, MUST issue marriage licenses to ALL couples, regardless of sex, color, nationality etc., because those were the parameters of the job they accepted.  But let us offer some measure of sympathy and compassion to those who have been overtaken by a sweeping change like this one.

Bottom line.  I think Kim Davis stance against same-sex marriage is WRONG – both morally and religiously.  But I will defend her right to live by her faith.  She did not ask for this, and if most people will really think about it, they will view her with sympathy and admiration for her courage.

10 Day Detox, Part II

I did VERY well on the detox.  The good stuff:

1.  Glucose level went from 117 to 83 – Yay!

2.  Insulin level when from 25.8 to 9.7 – Double Yay!

3.  I lost 13 pounds in 22 days – Triple Yay!

4.  My breathing feels MUCH better.  It feels like I might be on the right track for getting off the “devil’s pills” – prednisone.

5.  I have got used to it – so plan to continue with just a few modifications.


The less good stuff:

1.  Adding back coffee might be the cause of the rash I developed the same day.  Will try it again tomorrow and see what happens.

2.  Nauseus in the morning because protein in the am makes me queasy.  WAY TOO OLD to experience morning sickness deja vue all over again!  Still – I tried tuna salad this morning, and it actually did not make me want to hurl. Progress!

3.  I seem to be excessively fatigued.  More likely the illness than the diet. By fatigued, I mean fall asleep wherever I land, hard time following conversations, difficult time doing math equations…..WAIT.  That last part has been a life-long disability.  SAT scores?  710 language, 325 math.  As I always say…I am lucky that I can stand up straight I am so very unbalanced!


Pictures of the rash I got the day I re-introduced coffee.

My apologies.  This is for my doctor’s benefit.

Left Wrist

Left Wrist


Right wrist

Right wrist


Upper Thigh

Upper Thigh

I am scaring myself….

In spite of being of a very liberal mindset – I find myself actually agreeing with some conservative voices lately.   Sends shivers down my spine.

First I find myself admiring a column by Charles Krauthammer, and today I find myself saying “right on!” to Rick Perry via a Michael Gerson post. How surreal is THIS title??? Rick Perry emerges as a responsible voice among Republicans, by Michael Gerson.  

Maybe I am just more moderate than I think.  I just can’t bring myself to use the term conservative when referring to my political leanings.  Or maybe Donald Trump has addled my brains. I am just so incredibly relieved to realize that there is a portion of conservative voters that have not been mesmerized by this travesty of a candidate.  Also – if truth be told – I don’t think Hillary has a chance of winning.  So…I am looking for a viable Republican candidate.  The world as we know it might just come to an end if I actually end up voting for a Republican presidential candidate.  It is something I have NEVER done.  I have voted (reluctantly) for Republican candidates in state and local governments – but NEVER for a presidential candidate.

Some far right conservatives have said that liberals are so rabidly anti-Trump because The Trumpeter actually has a very good chance of winning.  Again – I find myself agreeing with the conservatives.  Scary, no matter which way you look at it.

Might be adding more thoughts to this post later.   Or, more likely,  I might just wander off again…..